As humans, we have an innate ability to create our reality. Whether we do that consciously and with purpose or unconsciously or delusionally – it really doesn’t matter. That ability remains.
People talk of things being meant to be, being guided by fate – but I’d like to counter that type of thinking.
It’s not that I disagree with the idea that there are moments of flow and trajectory, a chain of events leading miraculously or tragically to an end result. However, I do disagree that we have absolutely no input into whether the chain of events proceed as normal (seeming fate) or take a tangent elsewhere.
The main mistake, therefore, is not in the observation of a successive chain of events – but rather in that we are powerless against our experience of the outcome. Cause & effect vs providence. Choice vs fate.
And before we go the other extreme and think that this is about being in control of everything, and that everything that went wrong is just your fault – I’ll just stop it right here. It’s not about this at all.
But change is possible – and we do have the ability to influence.
However… as soon as you want to change, resistance comes up. Because, true fundamental change is uncomfortable.
And as soon as you feel that resistance and discomfort, a small part of your mind will want to say things like – it’s not meant to be, or fate does not want it to be this way.
This is where the idea of fate takes you out of your personal responsibility.
Suddenly, it’s not your choice. It just happened that way – a higher, pre-ordained power wanted it that way, not me. You convince yourself not to have it. And with our innate creative power, we actually can create that reality for ourselves. We fulfil the reality that we can’t create it anymore.
There is no greater example, in my experience, of this innate ability than Patterning.
Patterning is the 18 to 24 steps that you create through series of circumstance and draw in specific characters, to fulfil an outcome (known only to your ego) rather than your original desired end result. You might be going for a car, a job, a lunch date, a romantic relationship, whatever ~ and if you notice that it seemed ‘fated’ to not happen, then you can suspect your Pattern was heavily involved.
And what your ego achieves is the same every time (even if the circumstance is different), although all you experience and perceive is the loss of your desired result. It might be ensuring that you are right, getting the apology you never got, be witnessed as moral, have the opportunity to punish others, and more.
The further you move through the steps in your Pattern to this seeming fate to lose the thing you want ~ the greater the resistance to change that reality. That’s where this idea of fate comes in ~ not from reality but from the experience (& illusion) of resistance.
The most powerful thing about Patterning, apart from enlightening awareness, are the access points throughout the Pattern. These are points that you can access to negate the energy of your Pattern & your ego. The counter to this is that the further into your Pattern you are, the more you just don’t feel like accessing out of it.
Weird logic, I know. But it all comes down to resistance.
Resistance from your own ego (aka belief in your limitations) and its reluctance to give up on its agenda of survival. Because that’s all it wants, to ensure survival is certain. Even if it’s illogical. Even if you lose the thing you deeply desire.
It seems like fate, but it isn’t.
It appears as if the power is in the Pattern, but it isn’t. The power is actually in your perceived resistance to change the trajectory that you are headed towards. Ironically, you allocate that power.
You are only ever resisting yourself!
If you have ever witnessed organisational or political change – change is uncomfortable & there is always resistance, especially initially. Our egos are invested in the status quo – therein lies the devil you know. It doesn’t matter if that resistance is to your own detriment.
And to truly change? This requires will. Will is facilitated through choice and the ability to refocus.
Accessing will only takes a moment, to face the resistance, die to it, evolve beyond it. It's uncomfortable, but you don't actually die. Rather, succumbing to resistance is akin to a slow death, life without living.
And rather than the idea that your resistance is keeping you safe – instead it is really that your resistance is keeping you from life.
Your true self doesn’t resist life or living fully. It wants to connect with everything, diversify experience including those of pain and pleasure. But most of all, it loves the magic of life.
Living life with magic involves stepping out of your inner resistance. Once connected to your true self again, magic happens.
This has been my own experience – money appears, opportunities pop into your awareness that you didn’t see before, spaces open up, people ring you that you were waiting for, etc. Not that you’re in control of everything in your life, but the things that matter deep in your heart are possible.
And in that respect, fate is only a product of your own making.