But I don’t think so.
There may be a big brother agency out there, some multi-gazillion-billionaires financing the world and some super-spiritual dark force in existence, but the outcomes of today, to me, are just people reacting to the same emotions and thoughts patterns, running inside of them. Over and over again.
A lot of people in the new age field already know of this, that’s why the new-age world is riddled with belief clearing and positive thinking affirmations/visioning. I’ve been there, done that – and I still have glum days where I wonder whether I can do all the things I intend to in this lifetime. My limiting beliefs still remain.
I don’t believe you can get rid of them, nor do I want to.
Someone once said to me that it was very disempowering to say that you can’t change or clear your beliefs. Don’t get me wrong – I’m simply saying you can’t eradicate your core limiting beliefs from your consciousness. It is, however, true to say that you can take the power out of your beliefs in a given situation, through a series of learning, realisation and true action.
But that doesn’t mean that the core belief is gone and won't surface again.
For example, a naturally timid and self-conscious person wants to be a public speaker. But deep down she believes that she is insignificant and doesn’t have anything important to say (or worth hearing). Through a series of reinforcing events over time, she overcomes her beliefs and is able to speak, rather eloquently, in front of a crowd in a room.
Does that mean that she no longer believes that she is insignificant and doesn’t have anything important to say in all situations of her life? Probably not.
In the situation of speaking in front of a small crowd she has proven to herself that these beliefs are no longer true – the beliefs no longer hold any power. But if she then wants to speak in front of a bigger crowd or in another new situation, the beliefs would probably spring up again. Because they are a habitual part of her timid personality, her humanness – regardless of the level of confidence she develops over her lifetime. It is where her unconscious mind would naturally turn in face of the new and unexplored.
Our core limiting beliefs help form parts of our personality and identity. And that’s OK. It’s an inherent part and colour of our humanness. Your humanness is also a way in which others relate to you. So why would you want to destroy that?
Does anyone really relate to a super-human?
My teacher in intuition often talked about the futility of belief clearing and positive thinking. Trying to get rid of beliefs and emotions you don’t like in yourself, is to actually put the power in those beliefs and emotions, thereby reinforcing them stronger in your consciousness.
I’d like to go a step further than that.
To want to eradicate those limiting beliefs and negative emotions is to try and eradicate a part of you. It is almost an act of self-dislike, or self-hatred depending on the extent that you go. You could even compare it to self-harming disorders like anorexia or bulimia that occur when people are deluded by a body-ideal. Except this isn’t working in the physical, but in the psyche instead. At what point does the ‘ideal’ lead to more eradication of the Self?
When you think about it - is the power then, in your beliefs? Or your emotions? Or your thoughts? In you feeling motivated and powerful?
Or is it in yourself - regardless of your beliefs, emotions and thought patterns? Regardless of conditions, feelings or situations you find yourself in?
When people start realising that they are the creator of their reality and therefore their destiny, there is a tendency to start likening themselves as a super human. And I guess that’s true and wonderful, but those that are truly wise, rather than half-wise, realise in the long run that it is not about eradicating your humanness to do that.
Instead, you become MORE human.
You become more vulnerable. You feel and allow more ranges of emotions, including the natural pain of life. You start to accept the little imperfections in yourself and others, sometimes the big ones too. Regardless of circumstances and results, you stay connected to an everlasting power that exists within and therefore have no need to eradicate or fix things.
Nothing can truly touch you anymore, that which is not really you.
And if you forget this once in a while, you forgive yourself.
And while I write this, don’t be mistaken. I’m not saying that you should accept everything and go meditate in a cave somewhere. This is not about just accepting everything and find a new way to numb yourself out of being alive. Rather, this acceptance of ALL parts of yourself is the first step of true transformation.
There are more steps to transformation, but I just want to focus on this first step here. Because people have a tendency to want to skip this step - which makes all future steps in transformation futile. They want to rush ahead, not feel uncomfortable - only want to feel good and hyped up.
This is truly hard to explain in words. It is not an intellectual philosophy or concept. This is a deep connection with yourself, through an acceptance of all your faults, your shame, your fears, your powerlessness, you’re lack of viability in this world – the parts of you that are limited and inadequate.
It is also an understanding that to allow their existence does not actually mean anything. It doesn't mean that you are agreeing to manifest them. But, rather than a violent unconscious fight to eradicate and destroy that which makes you uncomfortable, you instead allow yourself to sink in and just be with that pain. The wound within.
Your inner wound is a part of you as much as your brilliance. It may not be your ultimate truth, but it is a creation of yours from many moons ago.
It all starts with the courage and the maturity to look and allow those dark parts of you to exist. They are only dark because you have hidden them from yourself, locked them away in your unconscious. By bringing them the light of awareness and a little bit of self-acceptance, they will dissolve away and transform on their own. There is no need to eradicate parts of you. You can only gain wholeness, thus true healing, when you start to piece back all the parts that you have hidden from yourself. This is where your true power begins.