With little things like this, it’s frustrating, but not life shattering. In the end you can let it go. And then, days later, in the most unlikely of circumstances (for me, usually in the shower), the word pops in. What a relief!
With the bigger dilemmas in your life, it’s not much different. It may be a problem at work, conflicts in your relationship or feeling stuck in a pivotal point in your creative projects. But no matter what it is, you’re stuck going round and round in circles, playing out the same dilemmas.
That can lead you to push the situation and act in ways that you normally don’t when you are feeling calm, cool and collected. Sometimes you can damage relationships and opportunities through forcing the process too much.
Maybe, if you have developed your intuition – you try to use that. But those of us who are experienced know that intuition evades you in times of extreme emotion. The negative, uncomfortable charge that you feel in a dilemma, makes your intuition murky and unclear. If you are able to force out an answer, down the track it usually turns out to be the wrong one, because your intuition has become filtered and misguided by your desperation.
This is not to be confused with times of great danger, when instinct takes over. Just to clarify that point.
So – what do you do? How can you access intuition in times of great dilemma?
One way is to let it go. It might seem counter-intuitive (I love that word), but it is a great way to neutralise a dilemma in your life.
I’ll explain the dynamics behind it. In your consciousness, your desperate energy and the action you take dedicated to finding an answer is reinforcing in your subconscious how powerless and incapable you are. So, this manifests as the answer evading you more. And maybe you overlooking the answer in front of your eyes.
That desperate, forceful energy is a sign for you that you have given your power away to something outside of yourself.
Here’s a simple technique I use. It brings about intuition spontaneously – I find it quite a magical process. You can try these steps the next time an answer evades you:
1. Take a moment and stop with the incessant trying - allow that 'desperate to find out' energy to be, no matter how uncomfortable
2. Decide in your being that the answer will be revealed. Really feel that decision.
3. Let it all go - go about your daily life.
The hardest part is the letting go and trusting that the answer will come. If you are especially attached to finding out the answer, you may start to get sucked back into finding out. This is where you refuse – you remain insistent that it will be revealed to you.
Notice when you find yourself thinking and mulling over the problem again. This will give you a clue that you’re being sucked back into that desperation energy again.
Claim back your power.
And the universe will hear you. This is not about whether you have the power over the universe or the universe has the power over you. Or proving whether you can trust it. This is where you connect with the depth and power of who you truly are – and then you are suddenly transported into a connection with all that is.
These lyrics have been popping out of my mouth the last week. Such a beautiful song and transports you into a beautiful space and connection to the present moment. It took me a while to get the message I was being told:
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Yeah, there will be an answer let it be
If you find yourself in desperation, then you could even try singing this song. Singing is one of the beautiful creative outlets and gives a place for emotional expression. You might even find that the process of getting in that space becomes easier.
I have other ways, ways that get you to instantly gain the answer through intuition, but I won’t share them here. I usually teach them in one-to-one coaching or intuitive workshops – ways that you can instantly dissolve the dilemma and move on. It just won’t do it justice if you learn these other techniques over a blog article.
But honestly this way I have just shared of creating spontaneous intuition is just as good. And it builds character.