Healers focus way too much on process.
This includes the modality they operate under, the behaviours they believe they should exhibit with others and how they position themselves with their clients. There’s nothing wrong with that at all… except when it becomes the main focus… THE focus.
It’s human nature to find safety and certainty in process. “Just tell me/show me THE way!” we say.
As much as the health & healing industry doesn’t want to admit, health is an uncertain process. Medical sciences try to reduce that uncertainty with ‘evidence’ but they still can’t explain the outliers and the non-text book cases. The human body & consciousness is a complex marvel. And they all weren’t created equal.
When you get stuck in process only, it starts to feel like forcing square blocks into round holes. You don’t stay open to insights and overlook the creative pivots needed when the process isn’t working for the person.
Another tricky viewpoint is having a current situation focus only. It can be more grounded, but can also be self-limiting. The problem here is that process can be dictated by clearing the current situation in a reactive way, which doesn’t move you out of the current situation… just feel better in it temporarily. Nothing fundamentally changes, but you often don’t realise it until you’ve invested a whole lot of time & energy into something that will continue to suck more time & energy.
An alternative viewpoint is end-result/outcome focus. The area that business coaches LOVE in marketing. The problem is that guaranteeing a client’s health outcome is a slippery, sensitive place to navigate, with possible legal implications. It’s what we want. It’s what the client wants. But it’s not as guaranteed as just following a process. If you focus on outcomes only, your process can potentially have a forcing quality come into it.
The best place to navigate is having your process informed by both the end-result focus and your understanding of the current situation. This creates a far more potent alignment and momentum, and with groundedness.
Stretching to Your Healing Legacy
What has this got to do with healing legacy then?
This includes the modality they operate under, the behaviours they believe they should exhibit with others and how they position themselves with their clients. There’s nothing wrong with that at all… except when it becomes the main focus… THE focus.
It’s human nature to find safety and certainty in process. “Just tell me/show me THE way!” we say.
As much as the health & healing industry doesn’t want to admit, health is an uncertain process. Medical sciences try to reduce that uncertainty with ‘evidence’ but they still can’t explain the outliers and the non-text book cases. The human body & consciousness is a complex marvel. And they all weren’t created equal.
When you get stuck in process only, it starts to feel like forcing square blocks into round holes. You don’t stay open to insights and overlook the creative pivots needed when the process isn’t working for the person.
Another tricky viewpoint is having a current situation focus only. It can be more grounded, but can also be self-limiting. The problem here is that process can be dictated by clearing the current situation in a reactive way, which doesn’t move you out of the current situation… just feel better in it temporarily. Nothing fundamentally changes, but you often don’t realise it until you’ve invested a whole lot of time & energy into something that will continue to suck more time & energy.
An alternative viewpoint is end-result/outcome focus. The area that business coaches LOVE in marketing. The problem is that guaranteeing a client’s health outcome is a slippery, sensitive place to navigate, with possible legal implications. It’s what we want. It’s what the client wants. But it’s not as guaranteed as just following a process. If you focus on outcomes only, your process can potentially have a forcing quality come into it.
The best place to navigate is having your process informed by both the end-result focus and your understanding of the current situation. This creates a far more potent alignment and momentum, and with groundedness.
Stretching to Your Healing Legacy
What has this got to do with healing legacy then?
You could say that your healing legacy is your end-result outcome of the impact your Soul would love to leave behind. Your purpose would be the process leading to the potential of that outcome (but just note that this isn’t guaranteed, without converting it over, either consciously or naturally).
Maybe you feel like you don’t want a healing legacy. That’s fine. But I would be surprised if your Soul doesn’t, if there exists a calling deep within you to impact the world positively by leaving the world a better place, in your own way.
Now onto my real intention with writing about this.
Your purpose (process) gains far greater momentum, when you stretch to your potential (i.e. your healing legacy = the outcome of things you want to leave behind to help society return to more wholeness).
It gains far greater momentum, because of tension. Like when kids have a rubber band stretching on their finger & then let go for it to go flying (possibly to smack a sibling in the face… oh, the innocence of children…).
Without that tension, the rubber band couldn’t fly.
Without stretching to your potential, it’s harder to create the momentum for your Soul purpose & flow to have real, far-reaching impact.
Stretching with Singing
About a year ago, I found out that my singing voice range had an extra octave that I’ve never reached before in the past 40 years.
I didn’t do anything particularly fancy (although afterwards I started looking into what is needed to take care of my voice, to avoid damage, such as from over-straining).
All I did, was have a very hard song considered near impossible to sing (it was originally designed to have parts that were unsingable, with the original singer’s recording semi-digitalised. BUT this is the capacity of the human spirit, to overcome seemingly impossible odds like the 10s sprint barrier for the 100m race).
Now… there are various compilations of people on Youtube singing it with varying degrees of ease.
I’ve had a handful of singing lessons before. A couple were with a friend who was a trained opera singer in her earlier years. While talking about my difficulties in hitting high notes, she mentioned that I just hadn’t conditioned my voice yet.
I didn’t believe her.
I didn’t believe it was possible or natural for me.
I tried the exercises she gave, maybe twice. And gave up.
10 years later, I was inspired by a singer on Youtube with an amazing range ~ and alone in my house, started to try & mimic him on the spur of inspiration. Every time I was alone, I playfully tried again (my poor neighbours, though).
I wasn’t thinking about the time taken to sing the song perfectly. I was just enjoying myself and the song so much. I don’t even think I believed it was possible – I was just so inspired & overcome by that inspiration, so I let loose & played.
Within a couple of weeks, something shifted in my voice.
I started hitting more notes.
I believe it took me 3 months to fully hit all the notes of that song.
Another month or so to hit them cleanly.
With this renewed sense of confidence, I started to try harder songs.
As I stretched further (ironically, you need to relax/surrender more going higher, while holding grounded in your core), it took me longer to just reach an extra half note… but I’m not trying to be the next opera singer or Guinness world record singer.
I just wanted to sing the songs that uplift my Soul. And enjoy some challenges.
And other songs that were difficult became easy.
It was a real paradigm shift – especially in my believe of my singing range.
This is not a post about believing until you reach something.
It’s not even about imaging what’s possible.
It’s about finding something so enjoyable & inspiring to your Soul, that you just play with it consistently without thinking & just revel in the joy of it.
So enjoyable that the uncomfortableness is still fun.
And one day, find yourself in a place of mastery. Not keeping tabs.
Just from stretching towards something you love for the sake of it.
Having fun
I couldn’t have known that I could reach this octave range. I definitely didn’t believe it.
But I acted like I could… (unintentionally).
I sang on weekdays for almost 6 months straight. I didn’t judge or worry about my progress – I just stayed in the flow of it. But I stayed grounded enough to know whether I truly hit a note or not. And then, one day, I was far advanced from what I could even imagine for myself.
This no different to other things I’ve done – presentations and courses, webinars, being a medical intuitive, healing/coaching work with strangers, sales conversations, launching and much more…
How many people are walking around with untapped parts of themselves, because they conceived it was impossible for them, even though they actually had the potential ability?
How many healers??!
When I say stretch, I’m not saying forcing or pushing yourself off a cliff. This is more about stretching, reaching, opening & expanding.
It can be uncomfortable. But it’s not damaging.
There’s a difference…
And did you know that you can have fun while being uncomfortable?
Think: hide & seek as kids, poker card games (is my poker face working?) and other games like Jenga (omg! Nerve-wracking, shaky hands… And yet, fun!)
If you were to learn or gain anything from this, I would say:
STAY IN YOUR HEART & BE MOVED BY THAT.
There’s something magical about the heart, with a frequency that changes the experience. And creates synchronicities. When you’re in the joy of things… consistency, riding through discomfort, trying something unnervingly new… becomes easy. You’re not judging your performance every step of the way (you become more compassionate in your heart).
If you have a vision of something you want to create, like a part of your healing legacy, take time to connect with what you love about it. And what makes it fun and inspiring for you? That energy will keep you going further with less effort, than grit or willpower.
The irony is that after you’ve reached a whole new level of operating, it seems easy… As if it was another person, from another lifetime that thought it was once impossible.
Maybe you feel like you don’t want a healing legacy. That’s fine. But I would be surprised if your Soul doesn’t, if there exists a calling deep within you to impact the world positively by leaving the world a better place, in your own way.
Now onto my real intention with writing about this.
Your purpose (process) gains far greater momentum, when you stretch to your potential (i.e. your healing legacy = the outcome of things you want to leave behind to help society return to more wholeness).
It gains far greater momentum, because of tension. Like when kids have a rubber band stretching on their finger & then let go for it to go flying (possibly to smack a sibling in the face… oh, the innocence of children…).
Without that tension, the rubber band couldn’t fly.
Without stretching to your potential, it’s harder to create the momentum for your Soul purpose & flow to have real, far-reaching impact.
Stretching with Singing
About a year ago, I found out that my singing voice range had an extra octave that I’ve never reached before in the past 40 years.
I didn’t do anything particularly fancy (although afterwards I started looking into what is needed to take care of my voice, to avoid damage, such as from over-straining).
All I did, was have a very hard song considered near impossible to sing (it was originally designed to have parts that were unsingable, with the original singer’s recording semi-digitalised. BUT this is the capacity of the human spirit, to overcome seemingly impossible odds like the 10s sprint barrier for the 100m race).
Now… there are various compilations of people on Youtube singing it with varying degrees of ease.
I’ve had a handful of singing lessons before. A couple were with a friend who was a trained opera singer in her earlier years. While talking about my difficulties in hitting high notes, she mentioned that I just hadn’t conditioned my voice yet.
I didn’t believe her.
I didn’t believe it was possible or natural for me.
I tried the exercises she gave, maybe twice. And gave up.
10 years later, I was inspired by a singer on Youtube with an amazing range ~ and alone in my house, started to try & mimic him on the spur of inspiration. Every time I was alone, I playfully tried again (my poor neighbours, though).
I wasn’t thinking about the time taken to sing the song perfectly. I was just enjoying myself and the song so much. I don’t even think I believed it was possible – I was just so inspired & overcome by that inspiration, so I let loose & played.
Within a couple of weeks, something shifted in my voice.
I started hitting more notes.
I believe it took me 3 months to fully hit all the notes of that song.
Another month or so to hit them cleanly.
With this renewed sense of confidence, I started to try harder songs.
As I stretched further (ironically, you need to relax/surrender more going higher, while holding grounded in your core), it took me longer to just reach an extra half note… but I’m not trying to be the next opera singer or Guinness world record singer.
I just wanted to sing the songs that uplift my Soul. And enjoy some challenges.
And other songs that were difficult became easy.
It was a real paradigm shift – especially in my believe of my singing range.
This is not a post about believing until you reach something.
It’s not even about imaging what’s possible.
It’s about finding something so enjoyable & inspiring to your Soul, that you just play with it consistently without thinking & just revel in the joy of it.
So enjoyable that the uncomfortableness is still fun.
And one day, find yourself in a place of mastery. Not keeping tabs.
Just from stretching towards something you love for the sake of it.
Having fun
I couldn’t have known that I could reach this octave range. I definitely didn’t believe it.
But I acted like I could… (unintentionally).
I sang on weekdays for almost 6 months straight. I didn’t judge or worry about my progress – I just stayed in the flow of it. But I stayed grounded enough to know whether I truly hit a note or not. And then, one day, I was far advanced from what I could even imagine for myself.
This no different to other things I’ve done – presentations and courses, webinars, being a medical intuitive, healing/coaching work with strangers, sales conversations, launching and much more…
How many people are walking around with untapped parts of themselves, because they conceived it was impossible for them, even though they actually had the potential ability?
How many healers??!
When I say stretch, I’m not saying forcing or pushing yourself off a cliff. This is more about stretching, reaching, opening & expanding.
It can be uncomfortable. But it’s not damaging.
There’s a difference…
And did you know that you can have fun while being uncomfortable?
Think: hide & seek as kids, poker card games (is my poker face working?) and other games like Jenga (omg! Nerve-wracking, shaky hands… And yet, fun!)
If you were to learn or gain anything from this, I would say:
STAY IN YOUR HEART & BE MOVED BY THAT.
There’s something magical about the heart, with a frequency that changes the experience. And creates synchronicities. When you’re in the joy of things… consistency, riding through discomfort, trying something unnervingly new… becomes easy. You’re not judging your performance every step of the way (you become more compassionate in your heart).
If you have a vision of something you want to create, like a part of your healing legacy, take time to connect with what you love about it. And what makes it fun and inspiring for you? That energy will keep you going further with less effort, than grit or willpower.
The irony is that after you’ve reached a whole new level of operating, it seems easy… As if it was another person, from another lifetime that thought it was once impossible.
To learn more about healing legacies & stretching to your Soul potential, as a healer, check out this new course HEALER HEART EMERGENCE.
Sign up closes on 13th June 2022.
Also on webpage is the '5 Types of Healing Legacies' webinar recording.
Sign up closes on 13th June 2022.
Also on webpage is the '5 Types of Healing Legacies' webinar recording.
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