I’ve noticed a common trend with people getting married, the ones putting a lot of effort into a ‘perfect’ wedding. At first, I found it quite strange – but after a while, it was the same story being told, time and again. They have a vision of their wedding and they spend enormous amounts of time, money and energy into actualising it. Months of  planning, arranging, organising – then at some point, usually just before the big day – they get to a point where they almost call it off. Or at least want to. I’ve heard people having breakdowns, black-outs, fights, dramas, dilemmas – then when ceremony is completed, the wedding of their dreams created. Most of them say they were glad they went through with it.

Actually, this happens with almost anything you undertake that really matters to you. There’s a point where things go a bit chaotic. Or a lot chaotic. There’s a period of orientation loss, uncertainty, loss of control, craziness – and all your deepest darkest emotions and thoughts have come to the surface, in your face. You are left in a complete confusion of what you were going for in the first place.

Foundations are fundamentally important! The foundations you are building – for your business, your children, your life – no one can dispute that the quality you put in is the quality you get returned. If you have a sustaining structure, you will find that in the end your vision will happen. If it is unsustaining, then (in the long-term) it will all fall apart. It is so vitally important, yet why do people often not want to go there? 

This was a strange month –everything seemed to come up to the surface and I had to question on many occasions ‘what kind of structure have I set up here?’ It was often quite uncomfortable to see why things weren’t working – and they often led back to me...