Health is the overlooked aspect. Not valued until you've experienced losing it, and greatly pined after when you do.
And if you can be fortunate enough to get her back, it is more than having her return that is the goal. A new relationship ~ a new relating is imperative if you want her to stick around. New respect for one another is needed, perhaps some sacrifices… and a collaborative attitude.
I have summarised 5 principles for health… they are still a work in progress, but in a way, they are complete.
These principles are not a ‘cure all’ or preventative to never experiencing any ill health. They are more a chance to nourish and boost where your health is right now. Develop that new relating, perhaps you could say it’s an experience of 5 different types of love.
It doesn’t matter if you are born with poor constitution, experienced bad luck or had something done to you (i.e. things outside your control), these principles apply to things you have the possibility to influence.
We are more influential to our health, than we could even believe.
The principles are as follows:
1. Identify & know your weak spots
2. Deal with any root causes
3. Develop habits that naturally promote care & self-nurturance
4. Actively engage in life
5. Embrace & reintegrate all of you
I’ll discuss each one below in more detail, with an explanation of each type of love that goes along with it.
1. Identify & know your weak spots
This principle is like a compassionate love. Compassion is to sit with suffering ~ rather than fix or cover up and make better. Instead, it is of support. Not exacerbating the weakness.
If someone comes and bares their weakness to you ~ do you tell them to get over it, pretend it’s not there, not important? Cover it up? Or use it against them? Kick them while they’re down and tell them to get back up again….? Fix it so they never ever have weaknesses again?
Or do you sit and listen? Listen to what’s needed, support while they find their own feet and build resilience?
Each person has their own cocktail of weak spots in the body(ies). The more medical intuitive readings I did, the more I discovered that each have their own version. Each blend of weak spots has its own level of consequences and symptoms ~ showing up in various physical, energetic, emotional or mental aspects.
What surprised me most, was that many people who I didn’t even think had a physical condition would come for a reading. It is so common. And each reading had their own flavour. Some had more dire consequences than others. It was a little like pot luck.
And some even showed to have improved organ function, say a heart that should’ve stopped beating, even with a family tendency to be a weak spot But because of good practices on a physical and emotional level, was of good life force and condition.
Your weak spots are not a death sentence, or at least they don’t have to be. Knowing your weak spots and listening to what is need to build their resilience is an act of self-love through compassion.
2. Deal with any root causes
This principle is like a tough love. Dealing with the situation, doing what’s needed in a direct, effective and deliberate way. It requires inner strength and persistence.
Tough love is what’s needed to protect your child or show them boundaries. It’s used to tell a partner or friend what they need to hear most, even if it hurts. Or take action that is not comfortable, but beneficial.
Health conditions can come about through various root causes. These can develop into a layering with other root causes, like a cause and effect. The root cause can be various things from nutritional lack, toxicity, emotional stress, environmental factors or more.
The root cause/s and any associated layers to ill health need to be affected at their roots. Sometimes, change can be affected in an indirect manner ~ however direct, deliberate action at the root is in most circumstances best.
Some might say they don’t know what the root cause is to deal with it ~ but that isn’t really true. If you don’t know, there are plenty of resources out there to find out. A medical intuition session is but one of many, many options out there to get to the crux.
Don’t buy into the story of ‘I don’t know’ – find out. Perhaps a little bit of tough love is needed.
Dealing with your root causes can feel like tough love, but it is still a form of love.
3. Develop habits that naturally promote care & self-nurturance
This principle is like a nurturing love. From nurture, one flourishes. A generous word, a kind touch, a mindful act ~ love can work through all avenues to convey the same expression.
A baby held, fed and rocked, or a lover blossoming under care and attention. This is the sustenance needed to heal, flourish and grow.
If you notice people with generally good health and lifestyles, it is usually because they have good habits ~ this goes beyond just clean eating and hygiene. Also, mindfulness, boundaries, emotional truth and more. These develop either through good role models, or are adapted over time consciously.
My dad is a good example of this ~ he lived to 91 years of age, living in his own home, driving a car and doing his own shopping up until the end. He was always moving, enjoyed simple foods and kept his mind active. Of course, his body started to deteriorate around 85 onwards (especially when he stopped playing tennis) and he kept things in a delicate balance – but one thing he never stopped was moving.
Your health care and self-nurturance can be simple and enjoyable. There are many options to choose from. The key is to keep these in a constant state of flow. Incorporating them into your lifestyle, becoming habit and natural routine, is when you experience the real benefits.
Another great self-nurturance is to be supported by healers of your choice.
These regular habits and support are a beautiful nurturing love that will lead to great beneficial flourishing of your health.
4. Actively engage in life
This principle is like a connecting, playful love. True connection with life which sparks your life force, makes life lighter and promotes flow.
Playful love is something you see kids yearning for. They haven’t learnt how to squash it yet. They pester their parents to play and connect with them, sometimes 24/7. It can be hard for parents who have squashed the yearning for life-engaging activities to be pulled out.
But, what’s life, if you’ve got nothing to live for?
It doesn’t have to be anything big ~ sometimes I’m drawn into life with my greater purpose of service, or times just drawn to enjoy a cake and tea with my daughter at a café.
But there’s a desire to connect with life, even do something different. Trying something outside your comfort zone, go home a different way, explore new ways to exercise, etc. Play!
We all know which activities bring us life and what deaden us inside. Life-bringing activities promote life in us, keep us engaged and present, enhances our connection.
For some reason, humanity tends towards deadening ourselves unconsciously. You hear it in things we say, see it in actions we take. Numb out with drugs/TV/social media, ease the pain, attain certainty, follow lifeless routines ~ none of these things help us feel alive.
Playful love engages. It gets you to meet and connect with life face to face, and your life force expands to follow you.
5. Embrace & reintegrate all of you
This last principle is like an unconditional love. When you unconditionally love someone, you accept all of them in that moment, with no conditions. In that moment, also, you are one and connected.
But instead, it’s so common to want to change the one you love. The things that annoyed you were always there, but your rose-coloured glasses blinded you for a while. Or, as a parent, try and get your child to perform better, behave better – as a reflection of you… somehow.
And that’s how we are in our health.
There is something unusual about the human condition. Unlike animals, which seem to have innate acceptance of themselves and their instinctual expressions – we, as humans, seem to reject parts we don’t like or don’t fit in with the group.
We aim to get rid of our natural expressions, as if it shouldn’t exist.
When I talk about health, I don’t just mean the physical, but also energetic, emotional and mental health as well. All aspects of you. So, there are often emotions, thoughts and behaviours that we don’t like. Squash anger, grief, shame.
Judge and criticise aspects of our bodies and desire to warp them.
From an unconditional love perspective, things seem different. Wholeness is innate. We can look on all aspects of ourselves like a wise, doting grandparent figure, who sees us fully as we are and still loves all aspects of us regardless. And we naturally express – accepting our feelings, accepting our truths.
We are clear what is us, and what is not us. And remain true to that. This is unconditional love, disregarding the conditions of who & how we have to be. And just being you in your wholeness.
How to use the principles
This is not meant to be a step-by-step linear process and once you finish off step 5, it’s over. It’s an ever evolving process, a continual enhancement for you and your life. When health evades you, a quick review of the 5 principles can help you identify a missing component. It’s usually the most obvious one that’s lacking.
Once you look at your health from this perspective, an enhancement, rather than ridding or fixing a broken part of you ~ then all sorts of possibilities become available. The possibilities for self-discovery and creatorship are endless.